I Have a Sensitive Child - a Discipline Dilemma

My husband and I are pretty much chalk and cheese in many ways. Although we have similar values and priorities in life, it's safe to say we have some pretty different approaches when it comes to parenting. My husband is from a rules-based background where you know what the rules are ... I come from a laissez-faire, lead-by-example background where there was so much else going on for my single mother that rules didn't really enter the equation.